Mart-deBlog

Everything that exists moves. It is impossible to freeze matter to absolute zero (Kelvin), and anything that has a temperature can be said to move. Everything in nature moves, planets move, earth-plates shift, seasons change and species evolve. Everything that is alive is in constant movement. The body constantly replaces its cells and muscles adapt to the strain they are under. Blood flows throughout, and everywhere your veins pulsate.
Human relationships, be they between friends, lovers or family, are intrinsically part of being alive, in case of human beings. Relationships are themselves alive. And thus, they have to move and change, relationships have to pulsate with blood, change, stretch and contract. In analogy to the theory of relativity, if the frame of reference is the relationship itself, then the two persons involved move in reference to each other: they move towards or away from each other. Thus for relations to be alive, you move towards each other or away from each other, it has to be like that. We humans fear change, and rather fix everything in religious dogmas, scientific formulas and political stability; similarly in our social relations, we fear change, we hate the approach and distancing of an other person. And thus they are afraid of letting relationships pulsate, they strangle it, throttle the natural flow just to keep things as they are.

When I am really sincere, there has not been a single person with whom I have not felt a need to distance at some point. This distance does not always means a strict separation, it simply means that there is a diminishing exchange, a partial denial of the influence the other has over you in order to regain oneself and be able to offer the other more or something new in case there will be a new approach. I am starting to see more and more the purpose of this pattern in life.