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We value things in life. We value our possessions, pleasures and memories. And, of course, we especially value our friends and our family. Having priorities in life means that you value some of these things more than others, as you would readily give up your laptop to save a dear friendship. Your values and their priorities form - what I call - a 'pattern of valuation' that informs many of your actions and thoughts. In a way, you could say that the pattern of valuation is the world you experience, the world you live in.

Love is different. Your love is not a value, simply added to your pattern of valuation. Falling in love does not just reshuffle your values and priorities. If it does this, then it is a mummified love, a dead love. Rather, love demands to be the supreme and sole value in your life.

Falling deeply in love is like sinking into a depression with regard to the world around you. You start to care less for everyday things, then you care less for your normal pleasures like sport and partying, and then your ambitions. Your friends? Your family? The loved one is like a singularity that draws away the value from things. And - here comes the real problem - it is a process without a natural limit. Setting a limit will kill it, its voice says: "how can you be in love with me if you cannot go all the way?" But, would you be willing to become indifferent to everything around you? Do you have what it takes to experience this ideal called 'love'?

The meaning of 'true love' is something unrestrained, an Idea that can only propel its manifestation forwards. Anyone who claims this is not the case, mistakingly defines love as 'frienship with sex', 'deep affection' or 'having someone to spend your live with', just to name a few. No, love cannot be defined in other terms than its own Ideal: to be the supreme and sole value that gives meaning to your existence.

Thus the conundrum is posed: Will there be meaning in your love, or will there by meaning in your world? Or will you get stuck in the middle, somewhere between the value of love and the value of your world, forever in a twilight realm, halfway happiness?

So, what do you think?